Marriage should be fun. You should be able to talk to your partner about anything and everything. You should be able to be open and honest, while still having a good time and enjoying each other's company. These kinds of relationships are sometimes hard to navigate. This is just a little podcast about love, sex, marriage and getting through life with all it's twists, turns and complications.
Scott and Rochelle talk candidly and openly about their experiences and what they've learned throughout their journey together, which spans two decades. Just click on Listen tab to check out the latest episodes, with new episodes posting on Mondays.
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"life is too short to be miserable"
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Most Recent Episodes
Ep 74: Anyway, here's Wonderwall. On this episode we talk about a recent trip we took to the Great Salt Lake and what was good about it, and what went wrong and how that could have lead to hard feelings between us due to frustrations. We also laugh for several minutes straight over an unintended sexual innuendo, which I am still laughing about as I write this synopsis.
Ep 73: On today's episode we give a quick update on our last episode about how we have implemented our plans and if they're working. Then we get a little more light-hearted this week and get into our topic, which is advice we would give to our newlywed selves to make our marriage a little bit easier. We discuss things like school, work, money, Roseanne (the TV show), and sex with the lights on. We hope you enjoy!
Ep 72: On this episode we get deeply personal as we share a real discussion we had with each other over our sex life. We recorded our discussion just in case, and now we're being our bravest selves and posting it for all to hear the process as we communicate our concerns in a loving way and try to come up with solutions. Be prepared to hear more than you ever wanted to about the one problem that has plagued our relationship for almost its entirety. Listener discretion is advised.
Ep 71: On this weeks episode we talk about getting a new cat, an ER visit with our 12 year old daughter with a heart condition, and having a meltdown over not wearing a mask in a public place. Eventually we make our way to this weeks topic and discuss mom and dad shaming and unsolicited parental advice. We talk about what it means to shame other parents and give some examples of times when we've been shamed. We exchange some facts from studies about what people in your life are more likely to shame you over parenting choices, and we offer some tips and tricks to to let the shame slide off your back and not ruin your day. So if you've ever been shamed in the past for your parenting choices, or you enjoy telling others' what they're doing wrong, this episode is for you.
Ep 70: On this episode we talk about our year in review. We discuss how we managed to get through a tough year and why we had to rely on each other more than ever, what we learned while being stuck at home, and the things we have come to appreciate. And for some reason we also explain why Die Hard is apparently an aphrodisiac, so you'll definitely want to tune in to hear that.
Ep 69: On this episode we discuss our feelings about the Christmas tradition of the Elf on the Shelf and whether or not it is time to move on from it. By the end of the episode we actually make a definitive decision about if we will continue suffering over it, or finally let it go, so listen for that.
Ep 67: On today’s episode we talk about how homeschooling is going, and Halloween costumes past and present. We discuss at length why we love having “couple” friends, and tell the story of an attempt to make friends while living in Boise. And finally we talk about why we love the relationships we have with our current group of friends and why it works for us.
Ep 66: On this episode we briefly discuss Ivy’s clinic adventures, before diving into birth control. We talk about 12 different forms of birth control and how they work, and how well they work. We also talk about which ones we’ve had personal experience with. Obviously this episode gets into some things that may be offensive to some listeners, so listener discretion is advised.
Ep 65: On this episode we talk about celebrating our youngest child’s birthday, our daughter, Ivy’s clinical appointments at the children’s hospital, and the overwhelming and tough time we have been having this year.
Ep 64: On this episode we discuss the 5 Love Languages, based on the book by Gary Chapman. We talk about what each love language means, and we talk about which one we believe the other person has.
Ep 63: On this episode we get really fired up about allowing our kids to be themselves and choose their own path through life, and how allowing them to do that, isn’t about your own happiness, it’s about your child’s happiness.
Older Episodes
Ep 62: In this bite sized mini episode we talk about whether or not having children can save your marriage.
Ep 61: On this episode we discuss another marriage myth that states that happy couples don’t fight. We talk about why it’s important how you fight in order to work through problems without making things worse.
Ep 60: On this episode we get back to our marriage myths and discuss whether married life can be boring. We also talk about Schitt’s Creek, going back to school, and family vacations.
Ep 59: On this episode we discuss mistakes we’ve made as parents as well as some things we might be doing right. We also talk about asking the kids what they do and don’t like about our parenting.
Ep 58: On this episode we talk about our 17 years of marriage, and give some advice (kind of). We also reminisce on our stupidity in the early years, and surviving the suburbs with animal neighbors.
Ep 57: On this episode we discuss the weird Utah holiday that Scott didn’t realize was a Utah thing until he was near adulthood. We also discuss the arrival of Taylor Swifts new album and why it’s the best thing to come out of 2020 so far.
Ep 56: On this episode we talk about date night again, with more details than our old date night episode. We talk about a date we had a few years ago where one of us ended up in the emergency room, but we still had a great time. We also update with some at home date ideas since many people can’t go out right now.
Ep 55: On this episode we talk about making sacrifices in order to keep our family healthy. We also discuss in ridiculous detail why Rochelle believes in ghosts, while Scott believes in UFOs.
Ep 54: On this episode we discuss being called child abusers and why we don’t let other people’s opinions get us down. We also discuss the hot button issue of having to wear masks in public and why you should just shut up and do it.
Ep 53: On this episode we discuss teaching our kids to do chores and giving them an allowance and why we’re not super good at it, but we’re trying. We also talk about learning to do chores when we were kids, and some memorable moments.
Ep 52: On this episode we discuss grown up play dates, getting old, and jealousy after Scott is openly hit on 3 times. We hope you enjoy this light-hearted episode in times of extreme tension everywhere.
Ep 51: This week we discuss how we spent Memorial Day, school finally being over, and saving our elderly neighbor. We also get into our 10th marriage myth to find out if sex gets boring after years of marriage.
Ep 50: As we are feeling extra anxiety this week and not sleeping well, we decided to do a light-hearted episode about our daughter Echo in honor of her birthday. We talk about her wild side, her short fuse, and why we call her an animal whisperer.
Ep 49: On this episode we talk about being in quarantine for 60 days and why Rochelle had a breakdown and cried twice in one day. We also discuss our next marriage myth to decide if your in-laws have to love you, and other difficult things with parents.
Ep 48: On this episode we discuss our 8th marriage myth where we decide whether or not one can be lonely within their marriage. We also discuss our plans for Mother’s Day and why we are grateful we don’t have toddlers or babies during the Coronavirus pandemic.
Ep 47: On this episode we discuss virtual birthday parties, wearing a bikini to a funeral, and whether or not you can change your spouse. Join us to find out if we’ve changed together or separately, and if we’ve tried to change each other in the last 17 years.
Ep 46: On this episode we get back to discussing marriage myths with our number 6 myth about the 7 year itch. We talk about whether we believed in it, and how after doing a bunch of research on it, we may have changed our minds.
Ep 45: On this episode we discuss some of the stuff we do to stay sane and not flip out on each other and the kids during the crappy Coronavirus situation we are all living in right now.
Ep 44: On this episode we talk about how we spent our spring break and breaking the news about the truth of the Tooth Fairy and Santa Claus. We also talk extensively about our parenting style and what has worked for us, being the parents of 5 children between the ages of 7 and 15.
Ep 43: On this episode we discuss April Fools Day, homemade masks, and helping each other out during these difficult and uncharted times. We talk about how we have been helping ease the burden and how we are surviving the quarantine that we have been under for 3 weeks.
Ep 42: Our second oldest child is about to celebrate his 13th birthday while our family is under quarantine, due to the Coronavirus outbreak. We discuss Dexter’s difficult toddler years, and how much things have changed since those hard years.
Ep 41: On this episode we discuss being quarantined in our home, homeschooling, and if every conflict has a solution. We also bring up celebrity marriages, and Jeopardy, so you don’t want to miss this episode.
Ep 40: On this episode we interrupt our regularly scheduled marriage myth to bring you a light hearted break from the uncertain state of the world to joke about disaster movies and loving music our parents forced us to listen to when we were kids. We will return to our marriage myth episode next week, so look out for that.
Ep 39: On this episode we talk about the Corona Virus, missing our babies, and puberty. We also discuss our 4th marriage myth about whether or not a good marriage comes naturally. We talk about why we believe that certain aspects of marriage can come more naturally, but overall a good marriage, or any marriage for that matter, requires work.
Ep 38: On this episode we discuss Marriage Myth #3: Kids needs should have priority over marital needs. We discuss both sides of the topic since we disagree, and try to fairly figure out who’s needs should come first.
Ep 37: On this episode we discuss the second marriage myth in our series, which is Never Go To Bed Angry. We talk about the pros and cons to going to bed angry, and if we consider this myth busted or not. We also tell stories from our own marriage that relate to the subject. We hope you enjoy this episode, and let us know if you agree with our conclusion.
Ep 36: On this special episode that starts out our series of episodes about marriage myths, we discuss the first myth, all you need is love. We talk about the survey we did on Instagram and some of the responses we received from our listeners. We talk about some of the things that you have to have in a marriage besides love, and tell a few stories from our own experiences.
BONUS: On this special Valentine’s Day bonus episode we talk about the smalls things that we do that help the other feel loved. We hope you enjoy this special bonus episode on this beautiful day of love.
Ep 35: On this episode we talk about trying to focus more on finding positives in situations, and over the course of 30 minutes, we continually find negative things. So we obviously need more practice being positive, and we hope you will practice it in your own life as well.
Ep 34: On this episode Scott and Rochelle discuss why there was no episode last week, because we were on a couples only retreat in the snow, and couldn’t tear ourselves away to do a podcast. We discuss why we don’t normally do winter activities, and what it’s like to crash a snow mobile. We also discuss why we think little, frequent romantic gestures are more important than big ones.
Ep 33: On this episode we discuss an article that says insulting your partner everyday could be good for your relationship. We talk about how this has been true in our relationship and we believe it’s the key to our longevity. If you would like to read the article discussed in this episode go here.
Ep 32: On this episode Scott and Rochelle go through 10 questions in the style of the newlywed game to see how well they actually know each other after 20 years together. You may be surprised by the final score.
Ep 31: On this special new year’s episode we discuss the 10 best things that happened for our family in the last 10 years, and why they were significant for us. They include everything from moving back to Utah, to super fun vacations and even leaving the LDS church. We also challenge our listeners to come up with their own list of awesome things from the last 10 years as we all prepare for lives in this new decade.
Ep 30: We are a week behind schedule because of Christmas festivities, but we hope you enjoy this episode about why everyone has different feelings around Christmas time, and everyone should be treated with kindness and respect. We reflect on losing Scott’s sister just before Christmas 11 years ago and what it was like to attend her funeral with a baby who was released from the hospital the day of her viewing.
Ep 29: On this episode Scott and Rochelle discuss how they have come to financial stability after years of living paycheck to paycheck. They discuss the differences in their childhoods that may have lead them to be more financially responsible even when money was tight.
Ep 28: On this episode Scott and Rochelle discuss an article we recently read that gives 1950’s relationship advice, and whether or not they think any of the tips are still relevant today. To read the article click here.
Ep 27: On this episode we discuss why the recent Holiday and the activities that go with it triggered the anxiety that Rochelle has struggled with for the last 20 years. We also discuss how Scott can support her when things get overwhelming and give everyone a few examples of what not to say when someone you love has an anxiety attack. We also give suggestions of things you can do to help ground yourself when an attack occurs, and discuss the difference between an anxiety attack and panic attack.
Ep 26: With Thanksgiving on the horizon we talk about traditions that we’ve kept from our childhoods, and the one’s we’ve decided to toss to the curb where they belong. We also discuss some of the random, everyday crap we are grateful for. Happy Thanksgiving.
Ep 25: On today’s episode we talk about the upcoming birthday of our oldest child, an discuss having to have the sex talk with our 11 year old and 8 year old daughters, and how it went. We talk about getting advice from friends through social media, and subscribing to parenting podcasts.
Ep 24: Today we discuss getting along with the in-laws and how despite a rough start, we get along with all in-laws pretty well. We tell a few stories, and share a few feelings, and hopefully that will help other people who may not be in the best situation when it comes to their own in-laws.
Ep 23: On this episode we discuss why October was a rough month due to pneumonia and Ivy’s blood condition, and how we are trying to be grateful and enjoy the little things now that it’s November, the month of gratefulness.
Ep 22: On this episode we discuss both the health and relationship benefits of an active sex life. Such benefits include the more you have sex, the more you’ll want it, how sex counts as exercise, why having sex helps you bond with your partner and so much more. Don’t forget to subscribe so you’ll know about all our future episodes, and for all things Get A Room, visit our website at getaroompodcast.com.
Ep 21: On today’s episode we go over Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome, a condition that our 10 year old daughter was diagnosed with before birth. We discuss how we have managed to get through the tough situation of having a child with severe medical needs, and continued to have a happy, healthy marriage.
Ep 20: On this episode we discuss getting family pictures earlier in the week and how it differed from getting them earlier in our marriage, as well as our childhoods. We also discussed taking childhood trauma and turning it into something positive as we parent our own kids, and how we can take the parts of our childhood we enjoyed and bring them into our kids lives, without bringing in the negative aspects.
Ep 19: On today’s episode we are talking about body positivity and how Scott supports Rochelle in her journey to love herself despite her weight, and what Rochelle does to feel better about herself in a society that shames fat people.
Ep 18: After listening to other marriage podcasts we discovered that there aren’t many out there that aren’t based on faith. In this episode we establish ourselves as a non-faith based podcast because of the simple fact that we have had a successful marriage, even though we were originally members of the LDS (Mormon) church but decided to leave as a family 5 years ago.
Ep 17: Hobbies are pretty much what make life worth living. But do you and your spouse have to have the same hobbies all the time? We don’t think so. As long as you are supportive of each other it doesn’t matter what your hobbies, they should never cause a rift within your marriage.
Ep 16: On this episode we discuss going to a concert and leaving the kids at home without a babysitter for the first time. We also discuss what it's like to attend crowded events while having social anxiety.
Ep 15: On this episode we talk about our busy lives, the resentment toward each other and George Washington for having to wake up early, and how to get sponsors to pay for a bathroom remodel. We hope you enjoy this funny episode (well, we thought it was funny), and don't forget to subscribe, rate, comment and recommend to your friends!!
Ep 14: On today's episode we discuss the Amazon Prime series about the Lorena and John Wayne Bobbit case. We talk about why we feel Lorena was justified in her dick slicing antics, and that John possibly even got off easy, because he was an abusive person, and a rapist. We also discuss whether we believe the case would have gone differently had it happened today.
Ep 13: On this episode we talk about Valentines Day while we barely manage to stay awake past 9:30 pm. We discuss why we aren't big Valentines day people, but more of a lazy type of love.
Ep 12: On our tropical vacation we're stuck indoors due to rain and discuss why being best friends with your spouse is the way to go!
Ep 11: On this episode we discuss why being an overachiever is overrated and how we are willingly sacrificing greatness so others can be the best.
Ep 10: On this episode we discuss why being positive is the best way to be happy with your life and situation.
Ep 9: On this episode we both countdown our top ten lists of reasons why we love each other so much! This one was super fun for us to record and we suggest you all do this awesome activity with your significant other!
Ep 8: On this episode, we lovingly reminisce about how we met during our senior year of high school.
Ep 7: DISCLAIMER: On this episode we talk about sex and the journey we went through to make it even better for us. Skip this episode if sex talk makes you uncomfortable!
Ep 6: On this episode, we started out talking about our individual hobbies and interests and somehow we ended up talking about Jeopardy and the possibility of getting a sister wife!
Ep 5: On this episode we talk about how we distribute responsibilities and household duties without feeling resentment or bitterness towards each other.
Ep 4: On this episode we discuss why we have a weekly date night and why it might be different than what you expect.
Ep 3: On this episode we talk about some of the challenges we have faced as parents to 5 kids and how we discuss some of the things that we do to make life easier and make our relationship work.
Ep 2: On this episode we talk about communication and why we feel it is the most important aspect of a strong relationship.
Ep 1: On this episode we introduce ourselves and give a little background about our relationship and why we feel could have a positive impact on other couples involved in a long-term relationship.
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